Nicole Bensen

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Did you start your career excited and bright-eyed, but now find yourself lost? Let’s reclaim your dreams – together.

BLARCIFT. Pronounced: BLAR-sift. It’s okay if you have no idea what I’m talking about, friend, because this acronym started as a joke when a client was asking for tips to protect herself during emotional conversations, and I was trying to come up with an easy way to remember these. We laughed at how we’d never remember […]

Hi friend! I recently promised you: Over the next couple weeks I’m going to share resources I’ve created based on frequently-asked questions and common challenges I hear from my clients—typically driven, Type A, Millennials. This week I’m sharing the Goal Strategy Sheet, designed to help you organize your thoughts into a clear plan to accomplish a […]

Hi friend! Have you heard of the “36 Questions that Lead to Love”? It’s a set of questions put together by psychologists in the 90’s to see if two strangers could develop an intimate connection just by asking and answering these questions. They start pretty neutral (“Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would […]

Journaling

Hi friend! Last week, one of my private coaching clients wanted help sorting through some stressful thoughts and feelings. I grabbed my STAR sheet and walked through the questions with her. Afterward, she said, “I feel so much calmer and better, thank you!” The acronym STAR stands for Study/scrutinize, Test And Restructure, and it helps […]

What’s ONE thing you can do that will make everything else easier (or even unnecessary)? Here is a recent personal example inside!

Happy Women’s History month! A couple weeks ago I went to a Korean spa with some friends. Have you been to a Korean spa? You start by soaking in a hot tub; then you’re taken to a waterproof table (think massage table minus the privacy sheet) where every inch of your body is vigorously scrubbed […]

Remember when grocery stores used to give out samples?  I’m not sure if the post-Pandemic world still does this (also because we heavily use Instacart, DoorDash, UberEats, and Whole Foods Delivery…), but as a kid, Costco was my favorite. It seemed like at the end of every aisle was a hairnet-and-glove-wearing person filling up tiny […]

We’re often quick to adopt tools that help us be more productive, but sometimes we forget that supporting our wellbeing also helps us on our quest for productivity and success.

This Do Good December calendar provides a little prompt of kindness to integrate into your daily life.