Nicole Bensen

Need some STARs in your life?

Hi friend!

Last week, one of my private coaching clients wanted help sorting through some stressful thoughts and feelings. I grabbed my STAR sheet and walked through the questions with her. Afterward, she said, “I feel so much calmer and better, thank you!”

The acronym STAR stands for Study/scrutinize, Test And Restructure, and it helps when you’re feeling Imposter Syndrome, if you need to pause in the midst of a heated discussion, or just get to the root of why you’re feeling the way you’re feeling.

You begin by writing down the thought or belief, then ask yourself questions to study, scrutinize and test that thought. Questions like:

⭐ Is this thought based on fact or feeling? 
⭐ What evidence do I have supporting the thought? 
⭐ What evidence can I find to challenge the thought? 
⭐ Am I making any assumptions? (mind-reading, future-telling) 
⭐ What might be another explanation or viewpoint?
⭐ What advice would I offer a good friend who was experiencing this thought? (and what might a good friend tell me?)
⭐ What is the effect of my believing this thought? 

Restructure your thoughts by taking a moment to pause and ground yourself. Then, come up with alternative (possibly more realistic) thoughts and evidence. Finally, check-in to see how you’re feeling after going through the exercise. You’ll likely feel more calm and will be able to see different perspectives that will help you take steps forward.

Click on the button below to download the STAR worksheet to help reduce stress ASAP! 📝

Psst…this is just one of ~40 tools I share in my online, self-paced, wellbeing program, Next Level You.

If you try the STAR sheet, would you please let me know what you think below?

Cheering for you!

P.S. You might be able to expense some or all of the cost of the wellbeing course, “Next Level You: happier, more resilient, confidence, and calm“, as personal development, so check if that’s an option for you!



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